It pisses me off that people think you can just BE trans. That you can just decide you feel like the opposite gender (without any dysphoria) like it’s some switch or personality trait.
I had a conversation with someone, they were someone who I knew when was still living as a female and hadn’t talked to since then. I explained to him that I was trans and that I’d like if he’d refer to me as he like I am. He complied with ease but he asked me a question that infuriated me
“Why would you put yourself through that? Like all the surgeries and hormones just to identify as a male just to fit outside of the binary? Like is it worth it just to feel like a man?” I was really angry at him at first and asked him to elaborate and what he explained next made me the angriest of all.
He mentioned various things he’d read on tumblr. He mentioned Auguste and Emery, he mentioned all the people on tumblr he’d met who were trans identifying (including genderqueer, agender, bigender, etc) and he truly thought the only reason people defined themselves as that was because of social reasons, or to break the gender binary.
THIS IS HOW MUCH DAMAGE HAS BEEN CAUSED. He didn’t think surgery was necessary because if you can really just decide you’re the opposite gender then why bother if your comfortable how you are and you are fine with your current body, he didn’t see the point in taking testosterone or estrogen everyday if your own figure was good enough he just didn’t get it.
This is why people who aren’t MtF or FtM using the trans label but me, this is why people saying they’re the opposite gender because “they feel like it” bug me. YOURE MAKING PEOPLE THINK THAT WE DONT NEED THINGS THAT ARE NEEDED FOR OUR HEALTH. If it wasn’t for the fact I knew I could one day transition id honestly kill myself because living in this body is hell for me. And I don’t think people need to want bottom surgery to be trans, I don’t think they need to take hormones to be trans I’m not someone who is here to say
“Your dysphoria isn’t bad enough for you to use our label!1!1!1!”
However I do believe you need some sort of dysphoria to be trans. Because it’s a fucking necessity, it doesn’t need to be to the point of surgery some people I know are fine with binding and presenting as a tomboy for safety reasons and don’t feel the need to go further, there are a bunch of people who just go by male pronouns in the comfort of their own home. Everyone has different degrees of dysphoria and how far they need to take it but the common factor is body/sex dysphoria.
Identify however you want but you have your own label and it is non-binary. And to anyone who identifies as trans because you think it’s some fun personality quirk or think you’re bending the binary you can fuck right off.
Luckily enough I explained to my friend some things ( special thanks to theotheropinion’s helpful FAQ ) but it just bugs me that his opinion is starting to become the norm
If you make trans a separate gender I’ll probably ignore everything you ever have to say about gender again
I think if you are trans and agree with truscum ideas about gender you really should have insisted on a brain scan before transitioning, y’know, to make sure. If this is a medical condition you can ALWAYS be tested for, why are you using your feelings and experiences to explain why you’re trans??
Show me ur paperwork betch, lemme see that abnormal brain of yerz
Who said that you could test for it? Many biological conditions have no test for it - bipolar, schizoprenia, so on and so forth.
It’s something that is biologically, essentially, fundamentally there, but they don’t know exactly how to work it out. They only currently know a few markers, far from enough to diagnose anyone (but plenty to demonstrate on the population level that trans men are biologically different to cis women).
If they could unravel it to the point they could hook you up to a CAT or PET scan and diagnose you as trans that way, I would welcome it myself.
But extensive research on the human brain has only just begun because the brain’s so fucking complicated. We just basically know stuff like which part regulates which bodily function, we have yet to get to the point where we can put you in a machine and diagnose any neurological disorder. Right now we just are settling for symptoms and what can be observed from the outside.
If they diagnosed people by brain scan and not by symptomology, I would have been diagnosed with Tourette’s waaaay before I actually was, and I probably would have had a much smoother childhood. And OP, I think this post is kind of ableist. It’s basically saying “HURR DURR U DON’T HAVE A NEUROLOGICAL PROBLEM, YOU DON’T NEED TREATMENT FOR IT, YOUR PROBLEM IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT” which has been slung at me a million times regarding my tics.
i really hate the terms “trans-masuline” and “trans-feminine”. like i know theyre supposed to mean “afab” and “amab” respectively, but isnt that a super shitty was of putting it? not all trans afab people are masculine, and not all trans amab people are feminine.
honestly it just demonstrates how trans**** people arent actually trans and just take gender roles too seriously, as in “i dont fit my gender role which makes me trans, and all trans people dont fit their assigned gender roles”.
I agree. “Masculine” is a descriptor of gender expression. It is also a spectrum rather than the binary oppositions of “male” and “female”.
"Transmasculine" suggests that a person behaves more male-like than female-like; I have even seen it described as "masculine of centre". This has piss all to do with transsexuality.
Thank god for Trans people who know better than to out you to other Trans people.
im waiting at the therapists and her friend asked if I’m a girl (I’m assuming she thought i was mtf) and the girl i know told her “no not everyone who comes here is trans” even though she knows.
For some reason most trans people think its ok to out someone as long as its to another trans person.
Someone please explain why people who don’t suffer from (sex) dysphoria seek medical transition?
I mean, why fix what’s not broken? Your body isn’t bothering you so why would you change it? Don’t you think that transitioning, only to de-transition shortly thereafter makes things even more difficult for trans folk who actually need medical help?
i don’t understand why non binary people are so insistent at calling themselves trans/transgender/FTM.
you have a word for your gender/experience. it’s called “non binary”.
what is so wrong with that word that you feel the need to take over a perfectly good word that describes what it means to feel that you should be the opposite sex? why be so desperate to squeeze yourself into a box you don’t belong, when you already have your own word and your own definition for that? why selfishly take that away from trans (not trans asterisks) people?
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A neurologist explains why ‘gendered’ brains is bullshit, and how the only real differences that, so far, can realistically be scientifically proven, are the size of brains based off of sexual dimorphism:
Sex Differences in the Human Brain Are Still Poorly Defined
Facile myths about male-female brain differences are especially disturbing considering the large amount of data now available on the topic. A recent PubMed search for the terms “brain” and “human” and “sex difference” turned up over 5,600 papers. Still, it is surprising how little consensus has emerged from this research. A few structural differences between male and female brains have been clearly demonstrated (Cosgrove et al., 2007): males’ brains are about 11% larger than females’ and have a slightly higher proportion of white matter, whereas female brains have a correspondingly larger proportion of gray matter in most cortical areas (contrary to what CBS News has to say!). The difference in brain mass or volume reflects the overall sexual dimorphism between males and females. Adult men are 18% heavier and 9% taller than women, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. Boys are also heavier and taller at birth and through most of development, except between 7 and 11 years, when girls hit their prepubertal growth spurt ahead of boys—the same age range when girls’ gray matter stops expanding ahead of boys’. Other organs, like the liver, heart, and kidney, show similar-magnitude differences between the sexes, though they are much less studied than the brain.
Science is transphobic. And reality. Reality is transphobic.
Ha ha ha *sob* it appears you grossly misinterpreted this. The neurologist doesn’t prove that the only differences in brains are size-based. But I don’t blame you! You need new and interesting ways to justify your fiery hatred of trans people, and steadfast obsession with securing that semi-finalist silver in the oppression olympics! Trans people are such conspiratorial monsters, jonesing for a piece of that oppression pie of course. How dare they suggest that struggles related to sex are nuanced, that someone born male can be disadvantaged compared to someone born female. After all, you require fixed identities, bodies, and simplicity to think the way you do. How fucking dare.
First off, you ignored this element of the abstract: “Sex differences in the brain are real and clinically important but often are grossly distorted in popular discourse”
Second off, this study doesn’t even mention transsexuals, and if anything proves the opposite of what all you bigots believe: because it indicates that size-based brain differences have to do with the bodies of men and women, any size differences with mtf or ftm transsexual brains would confirm that trans people’s brains are sexed or gendered (gender isn’t just a social construct sorry to disappoint!) differently to their bodies! That the brain is oriented towards a different body! And thus are indicators of science and reality being very much pro-trans. These size differences in trans people exist. For example, the stria terminalis or BSTc part of the brain of male to female transsexuals were found to be the same size as a cis female’s stria terminalis. This wouldn’t make much sense considering the sexual dimorphism of the male and female bodies, unless transsexuality and brain sex were legitimate issues.
Third, proving that size-based sexual dimorphism can account for differences in brain size says nothing about brain structure or brain function, which is leaving out three quarters of the conversation at least when it comes to trans people. The human brain has been getting smaller over our evolution, but it’s become more efficient at the same time with improved circuitry and structure. That circuitry and structure is highly relevant when it comes to transsexuality, and differences are so obvious that it’s gotten to the point routine brain scans may be able to identify transsexuals before puberty and thus lead to trans people being earlier prepared for transitioning to the sex their brain is telling them they are.
On top of that, transsexuals have other structural brain characteristics similar to the sex they identify as, or will transition to: male-to-female transsexuals have the same neuron numbers in the limbic nucleus as females. On top of that, researchers looking at another part of the brain, the hypothalamic uncinate nucleus, found that FtM subjects brains more closely resembled cis males’ brains, and that MtF subject brains more closely resembled cis females’ brains. So that’s three parts of the brain so far that more closely match the sex opposite the birth sex of the trans people involved. And each part of the brain is pretty powerful and important…If you don’t agree, you may be stupid! Check with your doctor!
Meanwhile, an actual study by UCLA researchers that focused on trans people came to this conclusion:
"The current study provides evidence that brain anatomy is associated with gender identity, where measures in MTF transsexuals appear to be shifted away from gender-congruent men," wrote the authors.
Science is jerk-phobic. Reality hates yoooo!!! I hope you don’t mind :) Don’t get too butthurt now
But sorry whoever you are and anarcha-pie and friends! You lose!
It’s so great when I don’t have to do all the work myself.
To the people who say that merely identifying as trans (and not experiencing dysphoria) is what makes a person transgender:
I was born with XX chromosomes and was assigned female at birth, I was raised as a female, yet am male. However, I identify as cis. I show no signs of being cis, given that I have had to medically transition to have a male body, so does that make me cis? No. It doesn’t. I sincerely wish that only identifying as cis would make me cis, but that’s not the case.
So don’t say you’re trans because you identify as such and then go on to say that you don’t experience dysphoria; it just doesn’t work like that.