I know, I know, you guys. I should shut up about this. but it just keeps getting worse.
Look at the main page of the advocate UNDER WOMEN.
I don’t need to have pride of my genitals. I need people (cis people especially) to stop telling me how to feel about my body.
A problem faced by many FTM folk is height. Generally we are a lot shorter than the average male due to having the wrong hormones pumping through our bodies. Usually by the time we can obtain the correct hormones, our bodies have already finished growing. To solve this issue, I suggest investing in elevator shoes or elevator insoles. The shoes are definitely pricey but I have seen similar looking regular shoes in stores go for the same price or much more. As I am not certain of the quality of the shoes and many may want to use their own shoes, I would say the insoles would be a better investment. They are a lot cheaper than the shoes themselves and are made to be able to be put in any shoe you own.
Some sites to look at are probably:
If anyone can provide reviews for elevator shoes and/or insoles or to provide any other information about height increasing for trans men, it would be much appreciated.
Can she fuck off forever? I couldn’t believe she actually said that, checked her FB, and wow, she was moronic enough to say that.
ThAnKs ArIeLlE U CuReD DySpHoRiA No NeEd 4 TraNsiTioNinG NoW
I attempt to keep this blog fairly free for trans issues, but I think this is important. Arielle Scarcella calls herself a trans ally, but this is what she talks about. I want to make something very, very clear: trans people by definition suffer from sex dysphoria. This is characterized as an intense disconnect between the brain of the individual and the sexed characteristics. Dysphoria is to a certain extent individualized per person (as in the disconnect is there but manifests differently. This can be inability to perceive the parts in question, intense discomfort when seeing the parts, and a range of other symptoms that all boil down to “WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS”), but do realize that to be trans you must have dysphoria. If you do not have dysphoria, you are not trans.
Moving on, it is possible to be trans while not having primary sex characteristic dysphoria. Sometimes that dysphoria will develop over time, other times not. I, for example, experienced minimal dysphoria up until puberty. I describe my childhood as largely agendered because to me it was. Upon development of secondary sex characteristic, the dysphoria came in full swing. And I am not alone in this. Other people do not follow the narrative of knowing they were a boy/girl since birth.
That being said, most trans men are going to experience bottom dysphoria. I can only speak for myself here, but I take the “ignorance is bliss” mode in an attempt to alleviate it. This means I will not acknowledge what I have in my pants, I will not think about it, and I will not take pride in it. So when a semi-prominent youtuber makes a video such as “Vagina Pride” in reference to trans men and acts as though the dysphoria is caused through either
- Misogyny or
- A lack of pride in our genitals
it spreads nothing but misinformation and does outright harm. So long as people think transitioning is a choice rather than a medical necessity trans people will have to continue to pay out of pocket for all medication and surgery that we need to survive.
This whole concept is, in fact, transphobic. It rests on the belief that trans people choose to be trans and that transitioning is a choice. This is a fundamental and ultimately harmful misunderstanding that can and does make life very difficult for trans men and women alike. Scarcella and any trans men who collaborated with her on this have shown themselves to be actively harmful and spreading misinformation about the trans community.
Also: this is why saying “Some men have a vagina; get over it” is a bad idea. You are extremely likely to trigger a trans man’s dysphoria.
Trans men do not need vagina pride. All trans people need safe and affordable access to medical care and legal protections against certain trans-specific issues.
It’s okay if you prefer to be seen as cis
It’s okay if you prefer to be seen as trans*
It’s okay is you prefer to be seen as cis in some spaces and trans* in others.
It’s not okay to tell other people if they should be stealth or out.
four flights, four times same routine - zero problem, no pat downs, no questions, full body scanners ain’t got nothing on my mr. Limpy*.
I was quite nervous about packing while going through the airport security before flying out to the States and received a lot of messages here on Tumblr from people saying it was probably best to leave a packer in your checked in luggage, but it sounded like almost no one was actually speaking from experience. so, I did a quick Youtube research based on which negative experience seemed super unlikely. in case someone could use them, here are some videos on the topic:
*I don’t wear any harness, so no metal parts there.
Sweet Jesus. People still don’t get it. What that video did was frame inappropriate, intrusive questions about trans men’s genitalia as acceptable and even laughable. It empowered a large audience to think “vagina” when they think “trans man.” Skylar, Arielle, and Ryan’s defenses of the video labelled trans men who don’t use that word to describe their genitals misogynists. Your alleged promotion of radical body positivity for trans people sounds eerily similar to arguments Dirt and her cohorts have made.
My personal decisions and needs regarding my own bottom dysphoria doesn’t hurt the trans movement. Ignorant, self-important “advocates “who talk out of their asses do. Please, stop. Listen to criticism instead of scrambling to deflect it.
I’m comfortable with the word vagina. It’s just a word to describe an organ… I have grown up in a misogynistic society where ‘penis’ ‘cock’ ‘dick’ can get thrown around like it’s nothing, whereas when someone says ‘vagina’ things get awkward, people cringe.. But I think that’s ridiculous, and the word vagina is beautiful to me!
The other thing is, vagina does not mean woman. Penis does not mean man. Having a vagina does not mean you are woman, man, genderqueer, etc. It’s just an organ. Having a penis does not mean you are woman, man, genderqueer, etc.
Organs and gender identity are different.
While I respect that many in the trans community may not want to talk about vaginas, I just want to put in my own thoughts on it - and I’m speaking from the perspective of a person who does not plan to have any form of bottom surgery, but has had a complete hysterectomy.
In the past, I have had people ask me if I had a vagina. I do. But I have said “no, I don’t” because I was dysphoric, because I don’t call it that, because I don’t want to think about it, because I wish it weren’t there. As I have grown, I have realized - this is absolute misinformation. Of course, I get really sassy when people ask me about my genitalia if they are strangers or just creepers. But when doctors, or close friends, or partners ask - it’s important, in my opinion, to be honest. While I don’t call my vagina a vagina, it still is a vagina. Clinically, it is. That is the word for it, simple as that! When I say “no I don’t have one” they’re probably like “huh. that’s weird. you haven’t had bottom surgery but you don’t have a vagina…. soooo what does T do? when you have top surgery do they just close it up down there? did you get it removed?”
A million different directions can be spun off of that piece of misinformation. Seriously - I’ve heard so many questions about it when I try to beat around the situation. (For example - when I went to the gynecologist for the first time. Denying I had a vagina was very awkward.) Instead, now, I simply say, "Yes, I do. But I’ve had a complete hysterectomy, and although vagina is the clinical word for the organ that I have, I prefer to call it my junk and would love for it to be hereafter referred to as such! Thanks doc!"
For me, it has taken 6 years to be comfortable saying “I have a vagina, and it’s whatever.” I don’t feel like any less of a man for acknowledging it. In fact, I feel better about myself overall. It’s a step toward me learning to love a part of me that doesn’t totally feel right. It’s me learning to love myself. I’m trying to accept it because I don’t plan on changing it - and I am trying to accept the things in life that I cannot change.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to terminology to refer to oneself - do whatever you are comfortable with - but I think it’s important for folks to know that avoidance of the word ‘vagina’ is rooted in misogyny. This is one of many steps forward for me, but I just want to say - I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying to love one’s body, if you can. Someday, I hope everyone can, in whatever form that may be.
I don’t even have the patience for this right now.
"I think it’s important for folks to know that avoidance of the word ‘vagina’ is rooted in misogyny"
Oh, shut the fuck up Skyler, you’re being a total idiot. You of all people should know what you’re talking about when it comes to topics like this, but clearly you don’t.
Put your brain to work for a millisecond and remember that little thing called dysphoria. That little thing that trans guys have, that makes them feel disconnected and for a lot, even completely repulsed and upset by their FEMALE genetalia because their brain sttucture is that of a MALE.
It has nothing to do with the hatred of woman, you moron. Don’t fucking tell trans guys that their lower dysphoria and the way they way to avoid acknowledging it has anything to do with hatred of women. You sound like a goddamn rad fem. I’m actually pissed off about this and I hardly get pissed at things I see on tumblr, but you, fucknuckle, you have a voice within the trans community and you’re telling a bunch of guys that their feelings about their genetalia/what they call it/if they ignore it or not etc has something to do with the hatred of women.
Christ, I gave you a bit of credit and thought you were one of the few “popular” trans youtubers with a brain. Guess not.
That video with Ryan Cassata and Arielle made it onto the website of The Advocate (a very big gay-issues publication). So it’s no longer just a bunch of teenage lesbians who like her channel being miseducated, it’s now being promoted by a magazine with a massive online readership. I’ve see a few people on my Facebook feed already share that video, assuming that this is a popular opinion shared by most in the trans community. This is the worst sort of ‘ally education’, right up there with ‘how to spot surgery scars’ in terms of potential harm. Spreading this sort of view is only going to further alienate trans men who need lower surgery to be happy with themselves.
It’s good to know that a trans activist is in a video spreading “vagina pride.”
Yeah, you’re really doing those with bottom dysphoria a real favor.